Working with men of all (st)ages

"The death of the Sacred King and Queen means that we live now in a system of industrial domination which is not patriarchy. The system we live in gives no honor to the male mode of feeling, nor to the female mode of feeling" – Robert Bly, Iron John

Dissolving Our Cultural Conditioning 

While the inertia of the male paradigm of force is still going strong, we’ve also seen the emergence of the disempowered “nice guy.” It’s clear that neither extreme is productive and healthy.

I believe that, together, we can help to undo this programming and create a new reality. First, by becoming conscious of our own conditioning and personal shadow and, by doing that, shift the collective and its shadow.

It's not possible to grow into a conscious, authentic and integrated man without becoming aware of your conditioning. The social hypnosis is deep. The very nature of a hypnotic state is that we don't know we are in it. We need to have a partner in this process of awakening because we don't see our own blind spots.

There's no shame about this. This was done to us and you are innocent.

Awakening to your authentic male power is moving from fear, shame, defensiveness, blame and victimhood to sovereignty and to the responsibility for your own level of consciousness. This is the path to freedom. It is a gradual process and requires courage, commitment, humility and patience. Men can support each other on this journey as we are reinventing and upgrading ourselves. 

In my group sessions with men, I begin with creating a safe container around a consecrated fire and guide the participants to consciously empty their minds from any preconceived notions and connect with their hearts. We become still, listen to our bodies and wait. In the stillness that follows, the wisdom guidance emerges spontaneously and organically.

We then share and explore together.

Some themes that emerge:

If you’d like to participate in the Portland Men’s Group, contact me.

“The best resource we have is our inner core strength that can be accessed only by becoming still. Yet, that stillness is dynamic in a very potent way because all true creativity emerges from there. All potentiality resides in the unmanifest stillness before it is actualized.

I guide my clients toward their own hidden resources and help them discover the treasures that might have been dormant under the layers of busyness, traumas and stresses of their daily lives.

I often work with clients that are in some kind of life transition, feel burned out or sense that, in the second part of their lives and careers, there’s a desire to start afresh and perhaps approach their lives and work from a different place that’s heart-based and more satisfying.”

–Lubosh

“What had started with Lubosh as business visioning has had implications for my personal growth and wellbeing. As a mature business professional, I’d wanted a proper website for years, but was stuck. Lubosh became not only my website designer and brand image consultant, but also my personal coach – I call him my Shaman – for understanding that the process starts with stillness, and that stillness opens the mind and heart to a vision. With his guidance, I could articulate my role as a catalyst for positive change in the world. Together, Lubosh and I created a final product that is not only authentic and beautiful, but has also attracted serious business clients.

Thank you, Lubosh!”

–S., Portland, Oregon